Free Christian Dating Sites – How To Tell If You And Your Date Are Not Equally Yoked

Whether it’s on free Christian dating sites or secular ones, it’s important for Christians that are dating to take the opportunity during this period to discover if they are equally yoked. "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers," writes Paul in 2 Corinthians 2:14. Since not all Christians are at the same level of spiritual maturity, how can you tell over the course of a few dates if the person you’re dating is equally yoked with you? Do you already have a feeling, suspicion or doubt about the relationship but are not sure how to evaluate it? Here are some questions you might wish to reflect on while you’re spending time with your date.



Dating Activities

Christian or not, we all have the propensity to engage in sinful behavior if we are faced with temptation. Is one party more prone to activities that lead you both to stumble? Do the activities appear evil to anyone? 1 Thessalonians 5:22 reminds Christians to abstain from all appearance of evil. If the person you’re dating prefers to walk a path that leads away from God, such a union will be difficult to maintain in the long run.



Relationships

Do you both share a similar desire to be with other Christians for fellowship and worship? A person who doesn’t have a strong relationship with God will find it difficult to justify spending time with God whether it’s by themselves or with others. Do they seem disinterested or indifferent when you talk about God? Or are they just going through the motions just so they can be with you? Does it hurt them to hear God’s name used in vain? A relationship with God takes time to develop. Is the strength of this relationship at a similar level for the both of you?



Finances

Are your attitudes towards work, money and finance guided by a similar level of trust in God? Tithing for example is commanded of all Christians. It’s talked about at every service. But not every Christian does it. Where do you and your date stand on this issue? Do you both share similar attitudes and levels of commitment towards tithing? Disagreements regarding finance are one of the most frequently cited reasons for divorce today.



Media

What kinds of books, music and movies do you both enjoy? When you are both at the bookstore, which section to you both head to? How much is the media that you and your date are consuming edifying to the spirit? What level of secular culture are you willing to allow into your lives and household? This aspect becomes more important as couples mature in their relationship and is plan to get married.



Challenges

When faced with difficulties in life, how do each of you respond? Do you both turn to God first or try to resolve the challenge on your own ability? Proverbs 3:5-6 says to "trust in the Lord with all your heart; and lean not on your own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your paths." Does the person you’re dating attribute positive things that happen in their lives to God? And are they thankful whenever God has answered? Do they seek God for wisdom when things don’t make sense? How much is prayer a part of their lives? Do they trust God with providing for your daily necessities such as food, water and shelter?



The more in tune both parties are while dating, the less friction there will be in the future. Seen from this perspective, the closer both parties are in their spiritual thoughts and actions, the more "equally yoked" they are, and the more confident they can be that their relationship will flourish once they enter into deeper levels of commitment beyond the dating phase.



Frank Costner is a contributing writer to the top free Christian dating sites on the internet. To get more Christian dating advice, check out FreeChristianDatingSites.net